How to Be Alone without Being Lonely

A huge part of growing up is figuring out who you are–from small things to likes and dislikes, to astronomical things like finding your purpose. Sometimes we don’t even know how out of touch we are with ourselves.

I had an epiphany about a year ago after getting out of a 4 year relationship. Sometimes we spend so much time thinking about and doing for others that we forget we need to tend to ourselves too! This was 100% me and I didn’t know that I didn’t know myself until that time in my life.

It is tremendously important and beneficial for a person to be comfortable and happy spending time with themselves–after all, the only person you can’t get away from is you. Of course, if you aren’t used to this it can be very uncomfortable and even irritating at first. Being alone forces you to look inward and have thoughts and feelings of your own that aren’t influenced by any external forces. This alone time can lead to you becoming more aware of who you are and what you want in life. It can show you what type of relationships you deserve, what kind of career you want, or what you truly believe. It can also help you make peace with things you have struggled with in the past.

Whether it’s your first time deriving energy from yourself alone, or your a pro at spending time with yourself, heres a few ideas of things you can do in your alone time:

✰ spend time in nature (go for a walk, go to the beach or the park, etc)

✰ cook

✰ read a book or listen to a podcast and reflect or just see how you react without others’ reactions

✰ go to a workout class alone (also a great way to make new friends!)

✰ set intentions for the day or the week (what is your goal this week? big or small)

✰ make a vision board

✰ clean!! (not fun, but its gotta get done eventually? maybe not)

✰ meditate (you can find free 5-10 minute samples to get you started on Spotify or Youtube)

✰ go to a coffee shop

✰ shop! (idk about you but I am always looking for a reason to shop 😉

✰ journal or write

✰ do your hobbies you always do, but try them by yourself!

This definitely does not mean you should always be alone. I am a HUGE advocate for balance in every aspect of life and this is no different! Whether you are spending time alone or with loved ones, make the most of it! Be positive and appreciate every moment.

Spread Smiles,



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